Responsibility: Accountable for Something Within One’s  Power

 Defined by Websters as follows: noun, plural responsibilities.

1.the state of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one’s  power, control, or management.

2.an instance of being responsible: The responsibility for this mess is yours!

What a simple, yet powerful word. This may well be the very first building block to success and happiness. Taking complete responsibility for your life is critical. Without it, you will be prone to complaining and blaming everyone and everything for your challenge. My parents, my spouse, my friends, my financial situation, the economy, other people, the government… you get the idea.

It is essential to lock down this concept. Accepting complete responsibility for everything in our life is the beginning of everything that follows on the path to reaching our dreams.

Check out this information from Brendon Burchard:  How to Get Our Sh** Together — The Power of Personal Responsibility

THE SECRET TO ACTIVATING THE “LAW OF ATTRACTION”

THE SECRET TO ACTIVATING THE “LAW OF ATTRACTION” (HINT: IT’S HIDDEN RIGHT THERE IN THE TITLE)

 

If you’re familiar with my work, you know I’m a huge believer in the Law of Attraction.

After all, I was featured in the ground-breaking movie, The Secret, which introduced the world to the Law of Attraction in a massive way. I’ve also written several books about it and it features prominently in The Success Principles and other programs I’ve created.

But over the years, I’ve come to realize that many people have misunderstood what the Law of Attraction is all about.

They think that all they have to do to create the life of their dreams is visualize what they want – and everything they desire will just naturally flow to them.

That’s not exactly how it works…

There’s something missing from this equation – and without it, no matter how much time and effort you put into visualizing your success, all you’ll ever be is a person with a dream.

In order to unleash the full power of the Law of Attraction and make your dreams come true, there’s one key ingredient you absolutely must integrate into your life: ACTION.

That’s right – once you have done the important inner work necessary to get clear on what you really want in life, you have to take ACTION – and take all of the steps required to make your vision a reality.

I’m not saying that all of your visualization and internal work isn’t integral to your success – in fact, Law of Attraction teachers Esther and Jerry Hicks often talk about how one hour spent on your inner journey has the same impact as seven hours of taking action in the outer world.

But that doesn’t mean you can ignore the action step altogether!

And yet I find that many people get so caught up doing the inner work, they fail to spend enough time taking the kind of action required to create the forward momentum they need to make their dreams a reality. If you want to achieve real and lasting success, creating balance between your inner and outer journey is essential.

The good news is, once you’ve done the inner work, the action work comes far more easily.

As soon as you start taking concrete steps towards your goals, you will activate the Law of Attraction – and gain more traction and go much further, much faster than if you didn’t have that clear vision in your head.

To help you on your journey, here are five concrete steps you can take to move into action – starting today:

1. Develop a strategic action plan

By creating a detailed list of every step you’ll need to take to achieve your goals, you’ll find it easier to move into action. You won’t waste time wondering what to do – because it will be clearly laid out before you. Be sure to identify the steps you’ll need to take to overcome every one of the obstacles you may encounter, as well – both inner and outer. This will help you deal with them much faster should they appear on your path.

2. Follow the trail

If you’re not sure which steps you need to take to achieve your goals, follow the breadcrumbs that others have left in their wake! After all, other people have already blazed the trail ahead of you and achieved the exact same goals that YOU want to achieve.

So if you want to shorten your learning curve, do some research and discover who these people are. Read their books and stories, watch their videos, listen to their webinars, and talk to them personally, if you can to find out what steps they took to achieve success.

Then follow their lead – it’s that simple.

3. Use the Rule of 5

When Mark Victor Hansen and I published our first Chicken Soup for the Soul book, we were so overwhelmed with possibilities for making the book a bestseller, we weren’t sure which ideas to pursue first. A wonderful teacher, Ron Scolastico, shared a powerful piece of wisdom with us: “If you would go every day to a very large tree and take five swings at it with a very sharp axe, no matter how large the tree, it would have to come down!”

That’s how we came up with the Rule of 5, which simply means that every day, you must do five specific things to move your goal toward completion. By committing to take meaningful daily actions to achieve your goals, you will accomplish more than you thought possible in a surprisingly short amount of time.

4. Involve others

If you’ve developed a habit of spending too much time on your inner journey, a great way to pull yourself back into the outer world is to enlist an accountability partner. Sharing your specific commitments with another person is a powerful way to ensure that you follow through on the actions you need to take.

You and your accountability partner can chat daily on the phone to share your commitments with each other and report on your success in achieving the previous day’s commitments. Or you can do this by email.

Or, if you feel a need for even greater accountability, you might want to enlist the services of a professional coach. A good coach can also help you explore

what might be fuelling your actions when you don’t keep your commitments, so you can overcome the limiting behaviors that are holding you back.

5. Check your beliefs

Many of us have beliefs that limit our success – including beliefs about our ability to take action, our capabilities, and what it takes to succeed. Take time to identify any negative beliefs that might be impeding your desire or ability to take action.

If you find yourself running up against limiting beliefs such as, “I’m not smart enough,” “I’m too busy,” “I don’t have the proper training,” or “It is going to take too long and be too challenging,” I encourage you to check out chapter 33 of my book, The Success Principles. It includes powerful exercises to help you shift your limiting beliefs into empowering ones.

In addition, I’ll offer you something that I use myself: A small sign on my computer that says, “So what? Do it anyway.”

So what if you’re afraid? So what if it’s expensive? So what if you’ve never done it before? So what if you don’t have all the information? Do it anyway, because once you take action, you’ll get feedback, and feedback tells you how to do it better.

Remember, the last six letters in the word “attraction” are “action.”

If you want to achieve results, you cannot only work on your internal world. You must also take action!

What actions have YOU taken this week to achieve your goals and dreams? Share them below in the comments!

Jack Canfield, America’s #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul® and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you’re ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com – See more at: http://jackcanfield.com/put-the-action-in-attraction

 

Luck or Skill

LUCK 

POSITIVE OUTLOOK + HARD WORK

“Some people have all the luck.”

You’ve heard that said, and perhaps you have wondered whether it is true. Professor Richard Wiseman, a research psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire in Britain, set out to test that proposition, and he subsequently wrote this book about his findings, The Luck Factor: The Four Essential Principles. His studies showed that people can improve their luck, or at least feel that they have, by changing their behavior and attitudes.

Getting luckier by changing your behavior and attitudes will not increase your chances of winning the lottery. Roulette wheels and slot machines won’t notice, either. Rather, your awareness of opportunities, your use of intuition/hunches, your resilience in the face of bad fortune, and your interactions with other people will improve–and their responses will likely be beneficial to you, making you “luckier.”

Dr. Wiseman’s findings uncovered four elements in the difference between those who believed themselves to have been lucky versus those who did not:

1. “Maximize your chance possibilities.” Be alert to opportunities, and act on them. He states this as, “Lucky people create, notice, and act upon the chance opportunities in their lives.” Often extroverts, they network well. With a relaxed attitude toward life, they try new things, get out of ruts, giving themselves more chances to “win.” For example, my youngest brother accepted a temporary research assignment in Great Britain, and there he met a wonderful woman to whom he is very happily married.

Professor Wiseman tested his subjects for alertness to obvious clues in a simple reading experiment. The ones who had considered themselves to be lucky usually found the clues almost immediately. The faction considering themselves to be unlucky generally missed the clues. The lucky were simply more alert than the unlucky.

To gauge their comparative degrees of connection to others, their degree of networking, Professor Wiseman had his study subjects read a list of 15 common last names and then check how many of these 15 surnames were of people they knew personally. On average, the “lucky” fraction knew many more than the “unlucky” fraction, indicating that the lucky ones were more effective at building networks. Networks are likely to present opportunities.

2. “Listen to your lucky hunches.“ Follow your intuition, not just your reasoning, in personal, financial, and business situations. You can increase this faculty by meditation and by setting aside problems temporarily while your subconscious mind works on them. Falling in love certainly has its intuitive aspects. Sometimes, however, we get a feeling that something is awry, even though we do not know why. Heed both attraction and repulsion. “The heart has its reasons that reason does not understand.”

3. “Expect good fortune.” Create self-fulfilling prophecies by having positive expectations. Expect interactions with others to be mutually beneficial. You will be more attractive as a partner, more likely to establish a win/win outcome. Let your reach exceed your grasp: have high goals. You cannot win if you do not try. “You’ve got to be in it to win it.”

4. “Turn bad luck into good.“ See the positive side of failure: turn that lemon into lemonade; recognize that it could be worse; learn; adapt; forge on; don‘t dwell on temporary defeat.

DEVELOPING DAILY HABITS

DEVELOPING DAILY HABITS

I coach a lot about the importance of developing daily habits.  As my mentor Jim Rohn clearly states, “success is a few simple disciplines repeated over and over”.  (Like an apple a day!)  Here are three of my favorite books about the critical importance of habits:

1. The Power of Habit- by Robert Duhigg (last weeks 5 Iron book)
2.  The Slight Edge- by Jeff Olson
3. The Compound Effect- by Darren Hardy

I found the following article in Inc Magazine useful and interesting. I screened the 19 habits down to my most important 10, but included the link if you want to see the full article.

I hope you are in the habit of reading and referring this blog to all your friends, co-workers, family, or even to your enemy’s. 

19 Tiny Habits That Lead To Huge Results Success starts with the little things.       By Nicolas Cole, Contributor, Inc.com

 Success doesn’t happen in an instant. It happens through the progression of lots of little successes, strung together over time.

If you want to build something big, if you have a vision, a dream, or even just a clearly defined end goal, the question is not how you can make that happen right now, or tomorrow. The question is: “What habits can I put into place that will allow that end goal to manifest itself?”

1. Do what you say you’re going to do.

Step 1 with anything: Less talk, more action. What may just be a hobby now could one day be something very special. If you love it, practice it. Don’t be that 40-year-old guy who says to every young person he or she meets, “I used to want to be a guitar player!” Well, why aren’t you still playing then?!

6. Go to the gym.

Or the yoga studio. Or run up and down the block. Whatever. Just be physically active. There’s nothing sexy about not being able to walk up a flight of stairs.

7. Surround yourself with people who represent what you ultimately want to become.

This is a habit and a choice. If you aren’t happy with where you’re at or where you’re going, take a hard look at the people around you. Chances are, they’re in a similar boat, and as long as you stay in that situation, neither of you are moving any time soon.

8. Read.

Seriously. If the only reading you do is perezhilton.com, then you need to hit up Amazon and buy a Kindle.

9. Don’t just set goals–track them.

One of the most revealing things I’ve ever done for myself was making a project plan for my life. Yes, a project plan. And all the things I wanted to get done in the next three months, I planned them out like I would a marketing campaign (I’m not joking). But guess what? It showed me everything I needed to know, when things were due, and how much time I needed to spend on them in order to get them accomplished. Do this more often, and you’ll be amazed at how much you over-promise and under-deliver–and what needs to happen for you to fix that habit immediately.

11. Dress for success.

It’s cliché but true–you have more confidence when you feel good about the way you’re presenting yourself. Make it a habit to portray your best self.

12. Meditate and reflect.

In tandem with the journaling habit, you need to make time to reflect. You can’t always be in “go go go” mode. Without reflection, you will not be able to properly integrate the lessons you’ve been learning along the way.

13. Teach others.

Even before you feel like you’re an “expert,” take the knowledge you’ve acquired and pass it along. Not only is it good for humanity, but you will learn whatever it is you’re teaching even more deeply when you have to explain it to someone else.

15. Eat healthy.

What you eat is a habit. You’re going to set a habit and then repeat that habit daily for a very, very long time. Make that habit take care of you, not drag you down.

18. Wake up when you say you’re going to wake up.

When you set that alarm the night before, you’re promising yourself you’re going to get up at that time. Keep that promise.

19. Read your chief aim aloud.

Stealing from Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill here: Write down whatever it is you want to build for yourself in life. Then every morning and every night, read that aloud. Out loud. Hear it in your voice and in your heart. Welcome it into the world.

Livin’ the Dream

 


One of my favorite funny responses that someone can reply when asked,  “how is it going?”, or  “how is business going?”  is some version of the response:   “I’m Living the Dream!”   It always makes me chuckle, and it sure does make a point.

I looked up “I’m Living the Dream!”  in the urban dictionary:

Living the dream –An answer to the rhetorical “how is it going”.   Usually given when someone at work asks how you are and it is quite obvious that you have a crappy job and are just as broke as the next person. Most often used when business is slow.

John:  Hey Mike, how’s it going?   Mike:  Living the dream, brother, living the dream.

On a more serious note, most people are not living their dreams. They are just too scared. Scared of failure, scared of going broke, scared of embarrassment. As time goes by many people simply lose their ability to even have a dream.   We probably all have heard the story (the warning) of the old man on his death bed– who was asked what he most regretted in life– and of course it was the things he did not do in life that he wanted to do that he regretted most. I urge you to step into living your dreams right now.  If you have a dream, passion, or a calling that you’re not yet living, it’s time to get to work. Here are three steps to start right now:

  1. Publicly declare it. Speak it out load with passion!
  2. Believe in it– before you see it.  “BECOMING”
  3. And then do it. Take Action.   “DOING”

Until you start living it, you’re only dreaming it. LIVE IT!

I found the following list of  “31 things that happen when you start living your dream”  both useful and interesting. My top ten favorites are:  1, 2, 5, 8, 10, 13, 14, 15, 19, 28.  Let me know what your favorites are.

And let me know…  “How it’s going?”

31 Things That Happen When You Finally Decide to Live Your Dreams

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