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DEVELOPING DAILY HABITS

DEVELOPING DAILY HABITS

I coach a lot about the importance of developing daily habits.  As my mentor Jim Rohn clearly states, “success is a few simple disciplines repeated over and over”.  (Like an apple a day!)  Here are three of my favorite books about the critical importance of habits:

1. The Power of Habit- by Robert Duhigg (last weeks 5 Iron book)
2.  The Slight Edge- by Jeff Olson
3. The Compound Effect- by Darren Hardy

I found the following article in Inc Magazine useful and interesting. I screened the 19 habits down to my most important 10, but included the link if you want to see the full article.

I hope you are in the habit of reading and referring this blog to all your friends, co-workers, family, or even to your enemy’s. 

19 Tiny Habits That Lead To Huge Results Success starts with the little things.       By Nicolas Cole, Contributor, Inc.com

 Success doesn’t happen in an instant. It happens through the progression of lots of little successes, strung together over time.

If you want to build something big, if you have a vision, a dream, or even just a clearly defined end goal, the question is not how you can make that happen right now, or tomorrow. The question is: “What habits can I put into place that will allow that end goal to manifest itself?”

1. Do what you say you’re going to do.

Step 1 with anything: Less talk, more action. What may just be a hobby now could one day be something very special. If you love it, practice it. Don’t be that 40-year-old guy who says to every young person he or she meets, “I used to want to be a guitar player!” Well, why aren’t you still playing then?!

6. Go to the gym.

Or the yoga studio. Or run up and down the block. Whatever. Just be physically active. There’s nothing sexy about not being able to walk up a flight of stairs.

7. Surround yourself with people who represent what you ultimately want to become.

This is a habit and a choice. If you aren’t happy with where you’re at or where you’re going, take a hard look at the people around you. Chances are, they’re in a similar boat, and as long as you stay in that situation, neither of you are moving any time soon.

8. Read.

Seriously. If the only reading you do is perezhilton.com, then you need to hit up Amazon and buy a Kindle.

9. Don’t just set goals–track them.

One of the most revealing things I’ve ever done for myself was making a project plan for my life. Yes, a project plan. And all the things I wanted to get done in the next three months, I planned them out like I would a marketing campaign (I’m not joking). But guess what? It showed me everything I needed to know, when things were due, and how much time I needed to spend on them in order to get them accomplished. Do this more often, and you’ll be amazed at how much you over-promise and under-deliver–and what needs to happen for you to fix that habit immediately.

11. Dress for success.

It’s cliché but true–you have more confidence when you feel good about the way you’re presenting yourself. Make it a habit to portray your best self.

12. Meditate and reflect.

In tandem with the journaling habit, you need to make time to reflect. You can’t always be in “go go go” mode. Without reflection, you will not be able to properly integrate the lessons you’ve been learning along the way.

13. Teach others.

Even before you feel like you’re an “expert,” take the knowledge you’ve acquired and pass it along. Not only is it good for humanity, but you will learn whatever it is you’re teaching even more deeply when you have to explain it to someone else.

15. Eat healthy.

What you eat is a habit. You’re going to set a habit and then repeat that habit daily for a very, very long time. Make that habit take care of you, not drag you down.

18. Wake up when you say you’re going to wake up.

When you set that alarm the night before, you’re promising yourself you’re going to get up at that time. Keep that promise.

19. Read your chief aim aloud.

Stealing from Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill here: Write down whatever it is you want to build for yourself in life. Then every morning and every night, read that aloud. Out loud. Hear it in your voice and in your heart. Welcome it into the world.

Livin’ the Dream

 


One of my favorite funny responses that someone can reply when asked,  “how is it going?”, or  “how is business going?”  is some version of the response:   “I’m Living the Dream!”   It always makes me chuckle, and it sure does make a point.

I looked up “I’m Living the Dream!”  in the urban dictionary:

Living the dream –An answer to the rhetorical “how is it going”.   Usually given when someone at work asks how you are and it is quite obvious that you have a crappy job and are just as broke as the next person. Most often used when business is slow.

John:  Hey Mike, how’s it going?   Mike:  Living the dream, brother, living the dream.

On a more serious note, most people are not living their dreams. They are just too scared. Scared of failure, scared of going broke, scared of embarrassment. As time goes by many people simply lose their ability to even have a dream.   We probably all have heard the story (the warning) of the old man on his death bed– who was asked what he most regretted in life– and of course it was the things he did not do in life that he wanted to do that he regretted most. I urge you to step into living your dreams right now.  If you have a dream, passion, or a calling that you’re not yet living, it’s time to get to work. Here are three steps to start right now:

  1. Publicly declare it. Speak it out load with passion!
  2. Believe in it– before you see it.  “BECOMING”
  3. And then do it. Take Action.   “DOING”

Until you start living it, you’re only dreaming it. LIVE IT!

I found the following list of  “31 things that happen when you start living your dream”  both useful and interesting. My top ten favorites are:  1, 2, 5, 8, 10, 13, 14, 15, 19, 28.  Let me know what your favorites are.

And let me know…  “How it’s going?”

31 Things That Happen When You Finally Decide to Live Your Dreams

Getting What You Want

Getting What You Want 

What would you like to do or accomplish? Run your own business, make a million dollars, get a job in a particular industry,  have a relationship or get married, how about build muscle or lose weight?

Whatever it is that you want to do or accomplish can be done if you simply know what to do. In today’s fast paced and sophisticated world we tend to over complicate things. We think the path to success is some sort of mystery only to be unlocked by the lucky few, or those willing to sacrifice all else in their life. Or, we believe the path must take many years of failure before we can arrive at the promised land.

This is not the case at all. Rather, You simply need to know what to do and do it. Can it really that simple?  Well, yes and no. This is one of those “simple but not easy” things. Just about anything you want to do or accomplish has most likely already been done or accomplished.  Why not study up on what others have done and follow in their footsteps. Do what they did that worked and avoid what they did that failed. Do not fall prey to the trap that you have to be a trail blazer. That will only cost you time and mental anguish. Do not be so arrogant as to believe you already know what to do, or worse, to believe you can do it better. All you have to do, is do what others have done, and you to will have success. 

If you want to run a business, who else is already running that type of business.  If you want to make a million dollars- study who has made a million dollars (or more!). If you want a particular job, seek out who has that type of job. If you want to have a relationship or get married, look to those who have a relationship like you want. Want health and fitness, go find healthy people. Those people know exactly what you need to know.  Those people did exactly what you need to do. Why make it harder than it needs to be. Follow the trail, it is the most efficient and effective way to your destination!

Here are five ways to follow the trail and to know what to do. I encourage you to pick one or more, or even all of them, and go make your dreams come true.

1.  WATCH – Carefully observe those people that have done what you want to do or have what you want and then do what they do. Copy what works. Do not be a trailblazer, follow the proven path. Be careful here, the idea is not to watch and not do. It is to watch and then do!

2.  ASK – Why guess when you can know?  Ask the people that have done what you want to do and have what you want to have, how they did it. What exactly are they doing and then do it. (I repeat that last part so you don’t skip past it– then do it!)  From my personal experience, 8 out of 10 people will happily share more than you can ever imagine. I find the more successful people are, the more they share. Helpful tip- flattery goes a long long way!

  1. LEARN– Hire a consultant or trainer to show you how to do it. Take a class. Then, do what they teach you. (Again, I repeat- do what they teach you!) Today there are numerous opportunities to learn. From formal schooling, online courses, and webinars to a massive consulting industry of experts that can teach you.
  2. READ– Read a how-to book. Then do what you read. There are close to 130 million books in the world. There are likely many books, that can show you exactly what you need to do to get exactly what you want. Said another way- read it and do it!

    5.  PAY – Hire someone to do it for you. There are some things you may want to accomplish that you can simply hire someone to do it for you. This is particularly true in business, where many key activities can be delegated to experts. It’s a little harder in other areas, like health and fitness. Hiring someone to work out for you might not be your best move.

When you know what to do to accomplish your dreams, all you have to do is to follow the words from the old Nike commercials and just do it! If you’re not doing what you know will get you what you want, ask yourself why?  Perhaps it’s not what you really want. Or perhaps you might have to go to work on yourself before you’re ready to work on your dreams.

PRIORITIZE YOUR DAILY ROUTINE

PRIORITIZE YOUR DAILY ROUTINE


One of my Mentors is John Maxwell, the great leadership speaker and trainer.  John knows the importance of daily routines and teaches about prioritizing your values into your everyday life.

The first step in determining your daily routine is figuring out what really matters to you. You can’t prioritize if you don’t know your priorities. If you’re not certain of yours, you can look at mine below and use them as a starting point:

1. Attitude: I will display the right outlook daily.
2. Priorities: I will act on the things most important to me daily.
3. Health: I will follow healthy guidelines daily.
4. Family: I will communicate with and care for my loved ones daily.
5. Thinking: I will practice good thoughts daily.
6. Commitment: I will make and keep proper promises daily.
7. Finances: I will properly manage dollars daily.
8. Faith: I will deepen and live out my faith daily.
9. Relationships: I will initiate and invest in solid relationships daily.
10. Generosity: I will model kindness daily.
11. Values: I will embrace good standards daily.
12. Growth: I will seek improvements daily.

For more on routines, check out this article from INC Magazine. it’s useful and interesting.

The Daily Routines of Super Successful People All Share These 5 Characteristics
Details may vary, but the fundamentals of a great daily routine are remarkably consistent.

12 HEALTHY HABITS

NUTRITIONAL & HEALTH EXCELLENCE

 three years ago. Yet this information could not be more spot on today.  If you are interested in Nutritional and Health Excellence, consider implementing these 12 steps until they become regular habits

 I have been trying to reach these habits for this for years– many more than three, and I continue to try– yet I fail regularly. No matter, like all things in life, the only real failure is in a failure to keep trying.  Do the best you can and stick with it.  I have found that slowly more and more habits are sticking with me.

 
  1. Eat Vegetables

It’s no secret that cooking food can remove some of its nutritional value! For example, even boiling vegetables can allow their nutritional goodness to leak away into the water that you’ll later pour down the sink. That’s why it’s often advised to steam vegetables! However, for your first tip to getting healthy try and consume more raw vegetables! Raw vegetables straight from the ground… okay not literally from the ground… contain high amounts of vitamin and minerals that can help support your immune system and optimize your nutritional status. Vegetables such as carrots, celery and peppers are tasty even when they’re not cooked and you could even try enjoying them with a healthy salsa or homemade dip.

  1. Cut out Sugar

Sugar intake across the world has BOOMED out of control increasing the rate of dental caries, obesity and chronic diseases such as diabetes, cancer and cardiovascular disease. That’s not to say you should throw away all sugar and go sugar free- keep the natural stuff but the second step to becoming healthier would be to cut out processed sugar or keep it for cheat meals!

  1. Drink 8 Glasses of Water 

You’ve heard this one before! Drink more water! Water has many, many benefits whereby drinking 8 glasses a day cannot only keep your skin and hair hydrated but can also reduce your hunger cravings and help you lose weight. Carry around a water bottle with you at all times- that way you’ll never forget or have an excuse.

  1. Workout at Least 4 days a Week

Aerobically and anaerobically– (Raise your heart rate and build/keep some muscle) If you’re not already exercising  then you should be! Make sure your exercising for at least 30 minutes a day 4 days a week! No matter what type of exercise you perform, physical activity is good for or physical and mental well being.

  1. Cut Out Hydrogenated and Trans Fats

Trans fats are by far the worst type of fat we can consume… how do they exist? Well if you consider an oil- an oil is unsaturated which means its chemical structure has a double bond and as a result it exists as a liquid. Fats on the other hand are unsaturated, meaning they have no double bonds and therefore exist as a solid. Hydrogenated fats are somewhere in between- they are oils that have had hydrogen atoms added across a double bond in a chemical reaction to create a compound that has the properties of a liquid oil but the solidity of a fat.

However, in doing this they generate an isomer called a trans fat- which although comes in handy for making tasty cakes that can last for weeks, also has harmful properties when consumed. Tans fats cannot be broken down by the body and have been shown in a range of studies to increase the risk of cardiovascular disease and risk factors such as high cholesterol and high blood pressure. So CHECK the labels! If you see hydrogenated oils or trans fats do not buy the product! Cut out these harmful fats if you want to become healthier.

  1. Eat More Vegetarian Sources of Protein

When it comes to consuming protein we automatically think of meat, meat and more meat. But there are tons of vegetarian sources of protein! Don’t limit yourself To become healthier make sure you are consuming a varied diet full of different foods. By consuming vegetarian sources of protein such as quinoa, beans and legumes you’ll also bag yourself some added vitamins and minerals!

  1. Stretch Your Muscles and Do Yoga

Every heard the saying “stretching doesn’t do anything” – well it’s wrong. If your exercising in order to ensure maximum muscle health you should be stretching your muscles daily and after every workout. Take up yoga! That way you’ll increase your flexibility and it might also help you to relax and achieve a healthier state of mind.

  1. Increase the Intensity of Your Workouts

Okay so i know we said you should be working out 4 days a week, but don’t be a slave to boring steady state exercise! Mix up your workout and rev up the intensity! Performing high intensity cardio regularly can increase your aerobic capacity and cardio vascular health! What’s more it gives you a chance to improve your physical fitness and challenge yourself! A win-win situation!

  1. Eat More Good Sources of Fat!

If you want to become healthier then you need to start getting all the essentials- and that includes fat! Omega-3 is an essential fatty acid that is important for a range of functions in the body- it also can help burn fat, improve cholesterol, blood sugar levels and reduce the risk of chronic diseases such as cardiovascular disease! Look after your body and your heart health and eat more fatty fish such as salmon- at least one portion a week, and more nuts and seed!

  1. Sleep for at Least 8 Hours 

Work hard play hard … and rest the right way! Make sure you’re getting 7 to 8 hours of sleep every day. Your body needs this time to restore its energy levels and recover its muscles. Sleep will become increasingly important as you increase your exercise load and getting too little sleep can actually prevent you from reaching your goals, lead to weight gain and also added mental stress.

  1. Eat More Fiber Filling Foods

 Fiber has been shown to improve heart health, aid digestion, lead to weight loss and decrease blood sugar, blood pressure and cholesterol levels. The benefits of fiber are all there- so to become healthier you just have to eat it!

  1. Stay Motivated and Keep a Healthy Mind.

The last tip to becoming healthier is all about your attitude. Don’t dwell on yesterday’s or today’s mistakes- stay motivated because tomorrow is a new day and the opportunities are endless! Strive towards your individual goals and keep a healthy attitude to why you are making changes.

 

Who Are You Learning From?

Who Are You Learning From?
 

Can you imagine how valuable it is to learn from the best? Think about those lucky enough to learn from the most successful people ever– what an advantage they must have over the rest of us.  

Well– thanks to the powers of the the internet you can probably find training’s, speeches, books, and advice from just about any great achiever ever–  even those who have passed on (Socrates, Plato, Einstein, Edison, Steve Jobs… all available to you).  I consider Jim Rohn, one of the trailblazers in personal development and coaching, to be my top mentor.  I ‘meet’ with Jim over an hour each and every month. Yet, I have never met Mr. Rohn, and he had had passed on in 2009. What I do is absorb his recorded speeches, both on CD’s and video over and over. His wisdom has proven so very beneficial to countless of super successful people, including Tony Robbins. I encourage you to google his name and read and watch what you find. If you do, I am certain you will find more success at whatever is important to you.

I share a story Jim shared with me about a lesson he learned from his mentor:

One day my mentor, Mr. Earl Shoaff, said to me, “Jim, if you want to be wealthy and happy, learn this lesson well: Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job.”

I must admit that this was a most challenging assignment. This idea of personal improvement and development was new to me. You see, Mr Shoaff said, “What you become is far more important than what you get.”  He continued, “The important question to ask on the job is not, What am I getting?– Instead, you should ask, What am I becoming?”

What you become directly influences what you get.  Think of it this way: Most of what you have today, you have attracted by becoming the person you are today.  Jim explained that he has found that income rarely exceeds personal improvement and development. Sometimes income takes a lucky jump up, but unless you learn to handle the responsibilities that come with it, it will usually shrink back to the amount you can handle. It is hard to keep that which has not been obtained through personal improvement and development. So here’s the great axiom of life from Jim and from Jim’s mentor:
 

“To have more than you’ve got…  become more than you are.”
 

I suggest you google successful people in areas you have an interest in. I further suggest you google ‘Success Coaches’ and learn from the accumulated wisdom of the ages. Check out a few of these links for some great wisdom from my Coach and Mentor Mr, Jim Rohn:

Jim Rohn – 10 Steps to Achieving Anything You Want 

Jim Rohn – Why Your Attitude is Everything

Jim Rohn – Habits To Build A Better You 

WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?

What we think affects how we feel.
How we feel affects how we act.
How we act creates our results. 
Our results create our life.


 

This is the core of my self coaching system. Everything flows from how we think. Yet most people have no idea about how and why they are thinking what they are thinking. They simply accept that a thought in their head is in control. However, nothing could be further from the truth. Thoughts are just passing opinions that we can choose to empower or that we can choose to dismiss. Ask yourself if a thought, or even better, if a belief, is useful.  Ask yourself if that thought is making you better off, or if you’d be better off without that thought. This is the beginning point of creating everything you could ever want. Just because a thought happens to spontaneously appear does not make it true, regardless of how convincing the sensation of its emotion may feel — we must realize that our thoughts can mislead us. 

Ask yourself if that thought is making you better off, or if you’d be better off without that thought.

I read a lot of completely inaccurate articles that suggest that it is hard, if not impossible, to change our thinking.I struggled with understanding how easy it is to control our thoughts and beliefs. It took a lot of practice to understand that I can program useful thoughts into my head and that I can let go of non-useful thoughts. The first step in this process is to actually observe your thoughts.  Pay attention to what is going on inside your mind. Try this game that I recently learned from the great trading coach Van K. Tharp. Mr. Tharp has developed principals to obtain a mental edge. What he calls “Tharp Think”.  He teaches this mental edge thinking to some of the most successful traders and hedge fund managers around.

Go somewhere that is comfortable and quite and close your eyes. I have done this before falling asleep, others do it as a part of meditation. Begin to notice each thought that comes to you.  Pretend you are on the outside, actually watching each thought come into you.  Do not judge the thought, just notice it. One thought after another… some happy, some stressful, some odd… just observe how thoughts move into your mind. Do not act on them. The more you do this the easier it is. What you are actually doing is called mindfulness, or as I prefer, awareness. Begin to be aware of the thoughts that pass through. Later we will explore where these thoughts might have come from, if they are useful, and how to program useful thoughts in.

 For now, be sure to understand that just because a thought happens to spontaneously appear does not make it true, regardless of how convincing the sensation of its emotion may feel and that our thoughts can mislead us. 

Iron Mike Stone 3.1.18

Coach/Consultant ~ Speaker ~ Writer/Author ~ Podcast Host ~ IronMan ~ MBA/RFC/ 32yrs in Finance ~ Entrepreneur #learning #trading #training #health #writing #triathlon