YOU HAVE POWERS WITHIN YOU — TALENTS WITHIN YOU THAT YOU HAVEN’T EVEN REACHED FOR YET!
“Some people have all the luck.”
You’ve heard that said, and perhaps you have wondered whether it is true. Professor Richard Wiseman, a research psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire in Britain, set out to test that proposition, and he subsequently wrote this book about his findings, The Luck Factor: The Four Essential Principles. His studies showed that people can improve their luck, or at least feel that they have, by changing their behavior and attitudes.
Getting luckier by changing your behavior and attitudes will not increase your chances of winning the lottery. Roulette wheels and slot machines won’t notice, either. Rather, your awareness of opportunities, your use of intuition/hunches, your resilience in the face of bad fortune, and your interactions with other people will improve–and their responses will likely be beneficial to you, making you “luckier.”
Dr. Wiseman’s findings uncovered four elements in the difference between those who believed themselves to have been lucky versus those who did not:
1. “Maximize your chance possibilities.” Be alert to opportunities, and act on them. He states this as, “Lucky people create, notice, and act upon the chance opportunities in their lives.” Often extroverts, they network well. With a relaxed attitude toward life, they try new things, get out of ruts, giving themselves more chances to “win.” For example, my youngest brother accepted a temporary research assignment in Great Britain, and there he met a wonderful woman to whom he is very happily married.
Professor Wiseman tested his subjects for alertness to obvious clues in a simple reading experiment. The ones who had considered themselves to be lucky usually found the clues almost immediately. The faction considering themselves to be unlucky generally missed the clues. The lucky were simply more alert than the unlucky.
To gauge their comparative degrees of connection to others, their degree of networking, Professor Wiseman had his study subjects read a list of 15 common last names and then check how many of these 15 surnames were of people they knew personally. On average, the “lucky” fraction knew many more than the “unlucky” fraction, indicating that the lucky ones were more effective at building networks. Networks are likely to present opportunities.
2. “Listen to your lucky hunches.“ Follow your intuition, not just your reasoning, in personal, financial, and business situations. You can increase this faculty by meditation and by setting aside problems temporarily while your subconscious mind works on them. Falling in love certainly has its intuitive aspects. Sometimes, however, we get a feeling that something is awry, even though we do not know why. Heed both attraction and repulsion. “The heart has its reasons that reason does not understand.”
3. “Expect good fortune.” Create self-fulfilling prophecies by having positive expectations. Expect interactions with others to be mutually beneficial. You will be more attractive as a partner, more likely to establish a win/win outcome. Let your reach exceed your grasp: have high goals. You cannot win if you do not try. “You’ve got to be in it to win it.”
4. “Turn bad luck into good.“ See the positive side of failure: turn that lemon into lemonade; recognize that it could be worse; learn; adapt; forge on; don‘t dwell on temporary defeat.
I coach a lot about the importance of developing daily habits. As my mentor Jim Rohn clearly states, “success is a few simple disciplines repeated over and over”. (Like an apple a day!) Here are three of my favorite books about the critical importance of habits:
1. The Power of Habit- by Robert Duhigg (last weeks 5 Iron book)
2. The Slight Edge- by Jeff Olson
3. The Compound Effect- by Darren Hardy
I found the following article in Inc Magazine useful and interesting. I screened the 19 habits down to my most important 10, but included the link if you want to see the full article.
I hope you are in the habit of reading and referring this blog to all your friends, co-workers, family, or even to your enemy’s.
This is well worth it!
Knowing who you are is hard- eliminating who you are not first!
Getting What You Want
What would you like to do or accomplish? Run your own business, make a million dollars, get a job in a particular industry, have a relationship or get married, how about build muscle or lose weight?
Whatever it is that you want to do or accomplish can be done if you simply know what to do. In today’s fast paced and sophisticated world we tend to over complicate things. We think the path to success is some sort of mystery only to be unlocked by the lucky few, or those willing to sacrifice all else in their life. Or, we believe the path must take many years of failure before we can arrive at the promised land.
This is not the case at all. Rather, You simply need to know what to do and do it. Can it really that simple? Well, yes and no. This is one of those “simple but not easy” things. Just about anything you want to do or accomplish has most likely already been done or accomplished. Why not study up on what others have done and follow in their footsteps. Do what they did that worked and avoid what they did that failed. Do not fall prey to the trap that you have to be a trail blazer. That will only cost you time and mental anguish. Do not be so arrogant as to believe you already know what to do, or worse, to believe you can do it better. All you have to do, is do what others have done, and you to will have success.
If you want to run a business, who else is already running that type of business. If you want to make a million dollars- study who has made a million dollars (or more!). If you want a particular job, seek out who has that type of job. If you want to have a relationship or get married, look to those who have a relationship like you want. Want health and fitness, go find healthy people. Those people know exactly what you need to know. Those people did exactly what you need to do. Why make it harder than it needs to be. Follow the trail, it is the most efficient and effective way to your destination!
Here are five ways to follow the trail and to know what to do. I encourage you to pick one or more, or even all of them, and go make your dreams come true.
1. WATCH – Carefully observe those people that have done what you want to do or have what you want and then do what they do. Copy what works. Do not be a trailblazer, follow the proven path. Be careful here, the idea is not to watch and not do. It is to watch and then do!
2. ASK – Why guess when you can know? Ask the people that have done what you want to do and have what you want to have, how they did it. What exactly are they doing and then do it. (I repeat that last part so you don’t skip past it– then do it!) From my personal experience, 8 out of 10 people will happily share more than you can ever imagine. I find the more successful people are, the more they share. Helpful tip- flattery goes a long long way!
- LEARN– Hire a consultant or trainer to show you how to do it. Take a class. Then, do what they teach you. (Again, I repeat- do what they teach you!) Today there are numerous opportunities to learn. From formal schooling, online courses, and webinars to a massive consulting industry of experts that can teach you.
- READ– Read a how-to book. Then do what you read. There are close to 130 million books in the world. There are likely many books, that can show you exactly what you need to do to get exactly what you want. Said another way- read it and do it!
5. PAY – Hire someone to do it for you. There are some things you may want to accomplish that you can simply hire someone to do it for you. This is particularly true in business, where many key activities can be delegated to experts. It’s a little harder in other areas, like health and fitness. Hiring someone to work out for you might not be your best move.
When you know what to do to accomplish your dreams, all you have to do is to follow the words from the old Nike commercials and just do it! If you’re not doing what you know will get you what you want, ask yourself why? Perhaps it’s not what you really want. Or perhaps you might have to go to work on yourself before you’re ready to work on your dreams.
The first step in determining your daily routine is figuring out what really matters to you. You can’t prioritize if you don’t know your priorities. If you’re not certain of yours, you can look at mine below and use them as a starting point:
1. Attitude: I will display the right outlook daily.
2. Priorities: I will act on the things most important to me daily.
3. Health: I will follow healthy guidelines daily.
4. Family: I will communicate with and care for my loved ones daily.
5. Thinking: I will practice good thoughts daily.
6. Commitment: I will make and keep proper promises daily.
7. Finances: I will properly manage dollars daily.
8. Faith: I will deepen and live out my faith daily.
9. Relationships: I will initiate and invest in solid relationships daily.
10. Generosity: I will model kindness daily.
11. Values: I will embrace good standards daily.
12. Growth: I will seek improvements daily.
For more on routines, check out this article from INC Magazine. it’s useful and interesting.
The Daily Routines of Super Successful People All Share These 5 Characteristics
Details may vary, but the fundamentals of a great daily routine are remarkably consistent.