If you could become world class at something in the next six months, particularly if it’s something you’ve dreamed of or gave up on, what would it look like? Share it with me in the comments.
I coach and train extensively on “becoming” and “doing”. These are the two work zones we must master. The video below is the Great Tony Robbins discussing raising your standards. This is what I call work Zone 1 “Becoming” or said another way: “I know what to do, but I’m not doing it”. Very insightful. To make it easier, I took notes for you- just relax and watch. Read the notes first. Watch the video. ABSORB it. REFLECT on it.
Everybody gets their MUSTS. Not their SHOULDs.
You might not make your GOALS, but you will make your STANDARDS. Wants don’t get met, standards do.
Human beings follow through on who they think they are. “I’m not that kind of person”! Really? When did you decide to accept that belief. When did you decide to accept that limit?
We adapt to be a certain way. Whatever identity we attach to ourselves, we live. We live who we think we are. Your identity = Your standards.
It’s not changing your identity, it’s about RAISING YOUR IDENTITY. Identify yourself in a new way. You will find a way. What are your standards/identity for: Your body, your money, your income, your health, your relationships?
Back your stardards with RITUALS. ***now we are moving into what I call Work Zone 2- “DOING”!*** Rituals is where the POWER is! Little things you do each day that after you do them you get so much momentum each day. Rituals define us.
example: If you are where you want to be physically you have very different rituals than if you’re not where you want to be.
Little rituals add up. Success is not some giant event that just shows up. Its something that happens everyday. Failure comes from all the little things you do. You missed the little stuff.
People are awarded in public for what they practice in private.
LOWER YOUR STANDARDS BY BEING AROUND PEOPLE WITH LOW STANDARDS. VISA VERSA.
What are the results in any area of your life that isn’t where you want it to be. What are the rituals you have in place on those areas. What do you want. What are the rituals that would get you what you want.
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I have spent nearly 30 years in business (sales and marketing), being trained by the top Investment banks in the world. I’ve studied high performance for endurance athletes, and I have been literally addicted to practicing personal development from the giants- Anthony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Jack Canfield, and many more. I know the “secret” and I know the power of “positive thinking”.
Further, I believe I have put together a unique short cut planning model to overcome your limits and accomplish your goals. I use this program for myself with great results. And I use it for those I manage and consult, as well as for those I coach. I have seen incredible results. If anyone understands limiting beliefs it’s me, or so I thought. (email me if you want the worksheets- they work!)
How can it be then, that I have just had a breakthrough on a massive limiting belief that might well explain the frustrations I have been running into my whole life? I will get to that in just a moment, but first there is an important lesson for all of us to remember. That is, never stop learning and trying to get better. There is no place of arrival. The elite pros of any industry or field continue to train and learn harder than the rest. The commitment to continually invest in yourself and constantly grow is critical. There is no place of arrival where you have learned it all. There is always more to learn.
OK, back on point. I recently spent four days immersed in Tony Robbins Unleash the Power Within. Bar none, this was the most incredible event I have ever attended. Intensity – Entertaining – Enlightening – Life Changing. If you can find a way to go to one of these events, I urge you to do it. It is a great opportunity “to go to work on yourself”.
What I discovered about my beliefs is, I did indeed have a GLOBAL LIMITING BELIEF. It was something I always believed was one of my greatest strengths. Something so internalized that anything I did was wrapped up in this belief.
From my youngest days, I believed that you get what you fight for in life. Life is tough and you have to be tougher. Furthermore, you only can count on yourself. Its all up to you.
By outward appearances, this served me well. I have been a tough competitor. I’ve fought hard, never giving up. Honestly, the tougher the better. Just about anything I have approached, I approach as if I’m Rocky getting in the ring with Apollo Creed. (Yes- I love Rocky!)
What I discovered however, deep into a heightened state of awareness, is that this viewpoint in and of itself, is in fact a global limiting belief. By BELIEVING life is hard, I attract a hard life. By BELIEVING my business is hard, I attract a hard business. By BELIEVING I have to fight to win, I attract fighting, frustration, stress, and conflict. By BELIEVING that I’m in this alone, I am alone. It only gets better. When this is your reality, you naturally need to escape, you deserve to escape. Where? Into unhealthy behavior- which I’ve been pretty good at, because, well I deserved it.
Yet, as an athlete and a student of self improvement, this is at odds with other beliefs of mine. It is at odds with what I have worked on and striven to improve upon. This is very common, most of us have various levels of this values conflict. Competing core values that pull you in different directions. The end result of values conflict is that you live in conflict and suffering.
YOU LIVE IN A STATE OF SUFFERING.
My breakthrough was to flip this belief over. What if I believed that life was beautiful? What if I believed that my businesses are beautiful? What if instead of believing that I had to fight to win, that I believed I had to love to win. What if instead of believing I can only count on myself, I believed that I can count on everyone?
WHAT IF I LIVED IN A BEAUTIFUL STATE?
WHAT IF I LOVED?
Please let me know what you think!
Recently I was able to put in a personal record, known as a “PR” in the athletic world, for the half marathon run of 13.1 miles. (1:51.42). Not bad considering I’ve been running since high school… some 34 years ago! (ouch!) My goal was to break two hours, a legitimate “runners” time. Only once before did I accomplish that, a few years ago with a unusual and suspect time of 1:57. The normal time for many years and many races has been 2:02-2:10. Yesterday, I smashed that mark by a significant amount, and am now setting my sights for more improvements. Thinking 1:45?
As I reflect on how this goal was reached, I continue to realize that the success system that I’ve been experimenting with all these years (I am the human guinea pig in my scientific experiments), has finally been perfected and is proving itself over and over again. I have to tell you, it is really exciting. I believe I have assembled together critical elements to a success and goal achievement system that can help anyone accomplish anything they want. I know that sounds grand, but I am deadly serious. I’m using it in my running and triathlon training, my weight loss, my businesses, and funny enough, even in the writing of my two books. I am proving it. I am also using it in my coaching and business consulting, where I am seeing results everywhere.
My upcoming book (expected release June 2016) “Get it Faster-Keep it Longer” is a step by step system for doing exactly this. Email me at email@example.com and I will let you know as soon as it’s available, and I will have a special early order discount for you.
What made the difference? I have always known “what to do”. There is plenty of training advice to be found that tells runners how to train. Coaches, websites, magazines, books and more. I have read that stuff for years. That was never my shortfall. For years I have put my training hours in. My “DOING” was always as recommended. What was missing was my “BECOMING”. Once I learned the importance of “becoming”, and more importantly, exactly how to actually make myself “BECOME”, did it all magically come together. I had to “become a sub two hour, 1/2 marathon runner FIRST! That’s right, you have to become what you want before you accomplish your goal. Over the past several months I became that type of runner- before I even got to the starting line on race day. As I ran the half marathon and my muscles ached all over and my gut felt like busting, I continued with the thoughts, and more critical the beliefs, that I am a sub 2hr runner. I am a member of this group. This is what we do- we run sub 2hrs. We run our pace when we hurt, etc, etc. The eventual results were a foregone conclusion! At the finish line, I wasn’t surprised as I had expected it. I already knew it.
This is crazy exciting! I am telling you that after 35 years of high level training, research, trial and error, and practice that I have developed a success system that really can get you anything you want! If you understand it and if you follow it. I will be sharing this system with all who want it! I encourage you to sign up for my weekly updates. Get ready for my upcoming book “Get it Faster-Keep it Longer”. Those who sign up now will get a free e-copy of my co-authored book with the great Brian Tracy- available next month that has a summary version of my system. In them mean time follow my Blog and listen to my Podcast “Get it Faster”! (Ah, yea… I’m BECOMING a Pod Caster)
Who do you need to become to accomplish your goal? Let me know! Please leave comments or email me.
By: Iron Mike Stone , MBA, RFC, Success Coach, Ironman
Who is your Mentor? The more I study successful and happy people. the more I learn the importance of Mentors. It is simply amazing the number of top industry, political,entrepreneurs, sales people, athletes and the like who credit mentors for showing them the way. I would have to fault myself in this area. All to often I forge ahead without the invaluable help of a mentor. This is something I will be working on.
But, just what do mentors do? And what if you don’t have ready access to a mentor?
Definition of mentor
Someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often younger person. A trusted councilor or guide.
Origin of mentor
Someone who teaches or gives help and advice to
Mentor comes from the literature of ancient Greece. In Homer’s epic The Odyssey, Odysseus was away from home fighting and journeying for 20 years. During that time, Telemachus, the son he left as a babe in arms, grew up under the supervision of Mentor, an old and trusted friend. When the goddess Athena decided it was time to complete the education of young Telemachus, she visited him disguised as Mentor and they set out together to learn about his father. Today, we use the word mentor for anyone who is a positive, guiding influence in another (usually younger) person’s life.
For our purpose “A trusted councilor or guide” is the key. I encourage you to reach out and ask those who have accomplished what you aspire to help you. As for their advice. Ask them to be a mentor. The worst they can say is no, and which point you’re no worse off than before. I imagine it’s more likely they will share what they know to various degrees. Remember, flattery get you anywhere. Side benefit- CONNECTIONS. A good mentor can make introductions and open doors that otherwise would be closed to you. Yes indeed- I need to improve on this asap!
One helpful idea is what I call “virtual” mentors. That is when you seek out the works and teachings of others. Fortunately, many successful people have written books, published essays, produced course work, and now even run podcast and u-tube channels. These are exceptional ways for you to virtually adopt a mentor by absorbing there teachers. This is an area I have excelled in, as a voracious consumer of self development courses and a habitual reader of books by leaders. Brian Tracey, Bob Proctor, Zig Zigler, Tony Robins and my all time hero Jim Rohn are some of my best mentors. I encourage you to implement and expand the usage of mentors.
Please let me know who your mentors are and any success stories you can share.
Jim Rohn, One of my virtual Mentors
Here are 20 top quotes from my MENTOR JIM ROHN:
- “Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom.”
2. “How sad to see a father with money and no joy. The man studied economics, but never studied happiness.” (One of my favorites – imagine, studying happiness! Now that’s a thought!)
3. “Days are expensive. When you spend a day you have one less day to spend. So make sure you spend each one wisely.”
4. “Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.”
5. “Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don’t fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgment, repeated every day.” (One of my favorites– and similarly success is a few disciplines repeated every day!)
6. “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”
7. “The worst thing one can do is not to try, to be aware of what one wants and not give in to it, to spend years in silent hurt wondering if something could have materialized – never knowing.”
8. “Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” (One of my favorites)
9. “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”
10. “Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.” (One of my favorites)
11. “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” (One of my favorites)
12. “Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”
13. “The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.”
14. “Asking is the beginning of receiving. I ask for all kinds of things. Make sure you don’t go to the ocean with a teaspoon. At least take a bucket so the kids won’t laugh at you.”
15. “Get around people who have something of value to share with you. Their impact will continue to have a significant effect on your life long after they have departed.”
16. “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.”
17. “Make rest a necessity, not an objective. Only rest long enough to gather strength.”
18. “Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.”
19. “No one else ‘makes us angry.’ We make ourselves angry when we surrender control of our attitude.”
20. “You must either modify your dreams or magnify your skills.” (One of my favorites)