To Do, or to Not Do. That is the Question.

To Do, or to Not Do. That is the Question.

With apologies to Shakespeare, every morning when you wake up there are two choices to consider:

1.  There are things that you don’t want to do, but you have to do, in order to be successful.  Can you do those things?

2.  There are things you want to do, but you know you have to not do, in order to be successful. Can you not do those things?

It is just a matter of self discipline.

Theodore Roosevelt once said, “With self-discipline most anything is possible.”

Jim Rohn claimed “Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.”

Robert Kiyosaki asserted that “Confidence comes from discipline and training.”

Here is an article on how to discipline yourself,   it is useful and interesting.


Are you Busy or Effective

In my experience the difference between being busy and being effective is about what you achieve at the end of the day.

Busy people are just that – busy doing lots of things, often together, but not actually achieving very much.

How busy and effective people deal with email is a perfect example. Busy people think that email is really important and they check it very frequently, often replying to emails as they come in. Effective people know that they need to focus on their most important activities and that email can wait – they generally check email less and deal with emails in batches at various points through their day.

I think the main difference between busy and productive people is how they decide to spend their time. Effective people prioritize their activities, limit distractions, and do their most important activities first. Busy people don’t prioritize activities, have frequent distractions, and do urgent activities first .

Check out this short comparison between busy people and effective people. It is useful and interesting:

13 differences between busy and effective people


What is Your Story





People often ask me about why I study personal development– ‘what does it have to offer’, they ask. What they really want to know is the magic 30 second short cut. Of course, like anything worthwhile, there is no magic short cut. We struggle. We learn. We forget. We try.

And that is what matters- we try to be better.  Better at what?  That’s different for every person in the world.  Better at whatever we, as individuals, want.   Because if we don’t try,  what the hell is the point?

If I did, however, have a magic 30 second short cut, it would have something to do with our thoughts– the thoughts we tell ourselves about– ourselves.  The thoughts that are the “story” we believe about who we are.

What is Your Story

What is an area of your life you are happy or pleased with? When your life conditions match the “Blue Print” or the “Story” about how you believe life is supposed to be.  You experience satisfaction.

What is an area of your life you are not happy or pleased with? When your life conditions do not match the “Blue Print” or “Story” about how you believe life is supposed to be. You experience pain.

When your “story” about life does not match your results and you feel you have no control to change it. You feel helpless. You experience suffering.

Three options:

  1. Blame something— an event, someone else, yourself. Very unhealthy and destructive.
  2. Change your life— change something– get a new career, relationship, place to live, etc.
  3. Change your Blue Print— Change the story you tell yourself. Make a shift!